There are many ways to deal with unexpected change in your life. The best strategies help you process these new developments, understand how they fit into your life plan, and find the best next steps.
An unplanned pregnancy is an especially big change to cope with. We’re giving you three helpful ways to deal with this change and find a happy, healthy way forward.
How to cope with unexpected change:
1. Process your emotional response
You are a complex person, which means you can experience multiple emotions at the same time. Unfortunately, jumbled feelings can often leave you feeling overwhelmed, confused, and out of control.
Processing your emotions helps you understand what you are feeling and why. It also gives you more control over your reactions.
For instance, let’s say your unintended pregnancy has left you feeling:
- Afraid that your partner will break up with you
- Anxious about the future
- Angry about the unfairness of life
When these emotions are jumbled together, you might lash out at your partner, even though you aren’t really angry with him. This may cause a fight that creates even more confusing emotions and harms your relationship.
Taking time to process your feelings helps you identify the reasons for them. You can then determine what you need to soothe these emotions. Try talking honestly to your partner about your fears. Consider what you want from your future and how to get there.
Once you’ve cleared your mind of clouded emotions, you can also think clearly about your situation and prevent any rash decisions you might regret.
What you’re feeling and experiencing right now is big and scary, but these emotions won’t last forever. Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings.
2. Keep the big picture in mind
Most importantly, it can reveal the resources you can use and which steps you should take next.
First, make a list of your priorities. Ask yourself, what are my main goals? Once you have a destination in mind, you can figure out the best ways to get there. Your goals don’t have to change, even in your new circumstances.
Keeping a long-term mindset will prevent a feeling of helplessness. You can focus on the things you can control in the here and now. In doing so, you can make decisions that will help you reach your goals and dreams.
3. Ask for help
You are strong. You are capable. You can (and will!) get through this.
But you don’t have to do it alone.
A loving, supportive community is crucial to a healthy, happy life. You can’t do everything by yourself. Your loved ones can fill in the gaps, helping you reach your goals and overcome challenges.
Best of all, your support system is yours to choose. You can find help from:
- Family
- Friends
- Teachers
- Coworkers
- Partners
- Churches
There are also many community organizations that can offer support, often free of charge.
These groups are eager to help as much as they can. They want you to succeed. With their connections and resources, they can offer what you need to achieve your dreams.
For instance, you can find local organizations that help with:
- Clothing
- Food
- Housing
- Childcare
- Schooling
- And so much more!
Don’t struggle needlessly on your own. Find care and support from a community who loves you.
Find Support at Thrive Orlando
Few unexpected changes are as overwhelming as an unplanned pregnancy. As you try to decide on your next steps, you need information about your pregnancy and health.
At Thrive Orlando, you will get a free confirmation pregnancy test and ultrasound. You’ll also meet with a Patient Advocate who will talk through your challenges and help you find resources and solutions.
We’re here for you.
Make an appointment to come see us today.
