Ever since you took that pregnancy test, those two pink lines have been all you can think about. You may feel overwhelmed, scared, panicked, or even a little excited. Like many women in this situation, you might have one question running through your mind: What do I do next?
As you learn about your options and consider the best choice to make, you might feel the need to keep your pregnancy a secret. This pregnancy wasn’t planned, after all, and telling other people could make things harder or more complicated.
Whether you decide to share your news with loved ones or keep it a secret, we want you to know that you’re not alone. You can find support, resources, and a judgment-free listening ear at our clinic as you figure out your next steps. We’re here for you.
Should I keep my unplanned pregnancy a secret?
Keeping your unexpected pregnancy a secret often does more harm than good. That said, there are good reasons to hide this information, at least for a time.
If you are in an abusive relationship, for example, revealing your pregnancy to your partner may put you in danger. Along with confirming your pregnancy, we can help you connect with the authorities or organizations that will keep you safe. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for immediate help.
Sometimes, family members and friends can also pose a threat to a woman who is unexpectedly pregnant. They may try to control her decisions, force her to make a specific choice, or even threaten to harm her. In some religions and cultures, unplanned pregnancies are shameful or unacceptable. Keeping your pregnancy a secret in these circumstances can give you time to understand your options and make the best decision without fear of judgment or pressure.
Your pregnancy isn’t anyone else’s business, and you should never feel pressured to share the news before you’re ready. But it’s also important to know that hiding this big news can make your situation harder on you. Though it can be scary, sharing your pregnancy with someone you trust can offer hope and strength when you need it most.
Why should I tell someone about my unplanned pregnancy?
A surprise pregnancy often creates waves of emotions. It’s easy to become overwhelmed by your situation and the choices you have to make, especially if you are going through it alone. Worse, keeping everything to yourself can make everything feel heavier or scarier than it has to. We aren’t made to handle such big situations alone.
Telling even one trusted person can take some of this weight off your shoulders. It can make your circumstances clearer and help you make a decision you won’t regret.
Before sharing your pregnancy, make sure you choose the right person. Above all, this person should have you and your best interests at heart. They should never try to pressure you into making a specific choice or judge you for your situation. You may find that your partner, sister, friend, or mom is the best choice. Depending on your situation, you can also confide in a mentor, coach, or teacher.
Our patient advocates are always available to help you understand and work through your situation with compassion as well. If you need support, you can find it here.
You need more information
With the introduction of mail-order abortion pills, women sometimes make a quick decision before talking it through. Sadly, these hasty decisions sometimes lead to regret. They can also cause serious physical harm.
No matter what you choose for your pregnancy, it’s important to at least speak with a healthcare professional first. There are several important things you must understand about your pregnancy and health, including:
- How far along you are
- If your pregnancy is located inside your uterus
- If your pregnancy is viable
- If you have a sexually transmitted disease (STD)
This information determines what pregnancy options you can choose. It also protects your health. You will need to have an ultrasound and get an STD test (both free at our clinic!) to get these answers. You can then plan your next steps with confidence and peace of mind.
Find judgment-free support at Thrive Orlando
You deserve to have support as you process your pregnancy. Along with options counseling, we offer free confirmation pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, and STD testing and treatment. We can also help you connect with other organizations and resources that can help you on your pregnancy journey.
Don’t go through this alone. Make your free appointment today.